Saturday, April 29, 2006

Prejudices

I find it so annoying when people are being prejudice.. doesn't matter if it's prejudice against race, colour, gender, financial background, family background, weight, height, etc. What right do they have to judge people? What they see or know is just the outside. The question is do they know the person from the inside? Do they know the person personally?

Lately, there's this statement made by PAS MP regarding Divorced Ladies which I find so annoying. "I've seen these single mothers when I attend gatherings or parties. They didn't look like they were sad about getting divorced. Instead, they seemed to be gatal"

How disgusting for somebody who is in that position to say such words.

Does he expect these ladies to be sad and full of self-pity about their marital status? So what is they are divorced. That is fact of life that some of us have to face with. Being divorced does not make you less or a woman. Being divorced does not give the rights for other people to label you as gatal.

Mr MP, I think it's time for you to look and evaluate yourself! We do not need prejudices like this, not in Kelantan, not in Malaysia and not in this world.

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

Love And Time

Love and Time

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others, including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all constructed boats and left. Except for Love.

Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to hold out until the last possible moment.

When the island had almost sunk, Love decided to ask for help.

Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you?"
Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."

Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel.

"Vanity, please help me!"
"I can't help you, Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked, "Sadness, let me go with you."
"Oh . . . Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!"

Happiness passed by Love, too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her.

Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come, Love, I will take you."

It was an elder. So blessed and overjoyed, Love even forgot to ask the elder where they were going.

When they arrived at dry land, the elder went her own way. Realizing how much was owed the elder, Love asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who Helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered.
"Time?" asked Love.
"But why did Time help me?"

Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how valuable Love is."

Tuesday, April 4, 2006

Between Family and Ambition

I consulted a few friends about the offer I received from the Management. Most of my friends advised me to go for it and accept the offer. It's high time that I take up something substantial. It's not that I don't have the credential nor the competencies to do it.

The problem is (which most people don't know,) is that my husband is not very happy when I told him that I have to take up the additional tasks at the office. He told me that I can accept it as long as it does not jeopardize my time with the family. I think that is something that is difficult for me to do. I'm very sure that somehow or rather the time I have for the family is affected. Infact, it is happening now. Lately, i have been spending more and more time at the office and have been going home late.

I think this is the one of the dilemmas that most married working females have to face, especially those with young family. Most often we are torn in between family and work. Of course family is important to us but at the same time, we have our ambitions to. We want to go up the corporate ladder and be somebody significant in the organization. But, that will not happen without the support from the family, especially from our significant half.

I would say that men are lucky. Nobody really question them if they seem to spend more attention to their work. It's normal for men to be that way. They are supposed to provide for the family... therefore, they are expected to work hard.

Well... it looks like my initial decision to decline the offer is right after all. Maybe this is the sacrifice that I have to make. I have to forget about my ambition for the time being and concentrate on my family first.